Video: The Chastity Basics




Where's The Pleasure In Chastity? Why Wear A Cage?

For a key holder: it is a rewarding and exciting thing to feel loved so intensely, to receive all a companion's attention and to be treated as royalty. 

As for the man who presses such trust and control over his sexual pleasure into the palm of his key holder: he becomes more docile, deferential and attentive. As his sentence of denial increases, the psychological aspect of his imprisonment heightens his libido and sensitivity, and more mundane concerns are supplanted by the overwhelming desire to serve and satisfy his dominant partner. 

In this journey, the chaste and submissive man learns to replace the daily relief of the past with a more wholesome devotion. He recognizes the place of veneration deserved by his key holder at the helm of their relationship. 





Step by step:

When it is decided upon to enter the world of chastity, the initial impetuous excitement must be tempered with prudence – the journey will be a far smoother and more enjoyable one if approached with patience and forethought! 

Wearing a chastity device 24/7 from day 1 does not come naturally to the unprepared body; it is best to wear a device over shorter periods that allow adequate opportunity for checking and access on short notice, and to allow the device to be removed while any uncomfortable area returns to normal. 

Firstly, it's necessary to determine which material and design of cage will best suit the body and give the greatest satisfaction. While Red Chili manufactures lightweight stainless steel cages, many cage designs of silicone, leather, metal, hard plastic and other materials exist on the internet. Some of these models are of lower build quality or difficult to clean, making them generally unsuited to wear over long periods. Red Chili chooses metal for its robust build quality, ease of cleaning, customizability and a greater sense of security. 





As each person has different needs, so too will each body react differently over time to a chastity cage. At first, a common occurrence is for the skin to be more taught or irritated, though it gradually stretches and tempers over time, adapting comfortably to the device. Skin that at first was reddened or irritated by attempted erections will come to heal. Whether you seek a first device, or are here because the common sizes of many market devices don't fit you, special attention to your sizing will be the surest way to comfort. A cage should be snug while not cutting off circulation, so the best time to measure is “at rest”: when the penis is at its smallest and most relaxed. This will help discourage such painful surprises as nightly erections or morning wood! 





Here are the typical elements to find the right measures for a male chastity cage:

- Intern Ø of the cock ring which is located behind testicles and comes around the scrotum (average value= Ø45mm)

- Intern Ø of the cage tube which contains the penis ( average value=  Ø35)

- Tube length (average value=  55mm)

- Gap between the base ring and the cage tube (average value= 8/11mm )





What About The Risks?

Wearing a cage doesn't present you with any great risk, so long as some sensible rules are observed: 


Choose a model that will be easy to keep hygienic.

Don't insist on caging yourself if your body is in pain. 

Don't wear a cage during physical activity that might end in it being caught, struck or damaged. 

Allow time for your body to breathe and adapt by having periods of freedom as well as captivity. This will provide healing time and help avoid uncomfortable surprises. 

Don't try to wear a metal cage through a metal detector unless prepared to extend your fantasy into public humiliation! 

Keep a backup key in case of emergencies. Having one in a sealed envelope is a simple and effective method to start, but there are plenty of other ideas you can discuss with your key holder to keep you safe and sound while making cheating an impossibility. Experiment and have fun! 






Chaste, But Still Very Sexual!

This is obviously somewhat different from the idea of traditional chastity before marriage. Rather, the goal here is to provide sexual pleasure in a more refined and cerebral manner. To put it simply, to enjoy sexuality through chastity. 

The absence of access to the penis doesn't equate to the absence of pleasure. The key holder, for instance, can be given tremendous pleasure through liberal and creative use of the hands and mouth. And when not licking or massaging, the chaste party can display their appreciation and enjoy the psychological aspect of submission by serving around the house; cooking and cleaning are common roles that dominant key holders will assign their submissives. 

Understanding the depth and diversity of the chastity lifestyle takes time. During the early stages of a relationship, the submissive is driven to excitement, then to frustration, at the inability to control his own sexual needs. Eventually a state of resignation is reached, as the vestiges of a past life of indulgence fade into memory. Thus freed, he is free to enjoy the true pleasures of chastity, and displays his new-found love in adoration and service. The level of regard for his keyholder steadily rises as he reaches a form of nirvana. It is a strongly psychological feeling of gratefulness, which some couples translate into physical pleasure by mixing chastity with teasing and bondage. 

Each person who begins the journey of chastity will walk it at their own pace and in their own way. Some couples break a year into separate chastity periods and mix it with vanilla sex, or switch dominant and submissive roles. Others strive for long-term imprisonment, with punishment periods gradually extending into the years. It's up to you to discover what suits you best, and we aim to help you truly enjoy doing so.”